Ask Annalisa BarbieriFamilyDon’t be ashamed. Shame is for the other people in your life who failed you, says Annalisa Barbieri As a child, I stole a pair of my mother’s high-waisted, pink and white nylon knickers and wore them under my short trousers to school. I was six years old and not getting what I needed from her. I felt I couldn’t access her. She was physically and emotionally unavailable, and in a marriage that was “on the rocks”, as she used to say.

OpinionLife and style This article is more than 2 years oldAfter two daughters, I had my first son. The reaction was different – and revealingThis article is more than 2 years oldSophie BrickmanWhen I asked other parents, each had noticed a very real preference for their sons. ‘My father-in-law only likes photos that feature our boy,’ one said By the time we left the hospital 34 hours after my son, Jules, was born on 14 July, two nurses had commented on the strength of his suck, four friends had written us some version of “Finally, you’ve got your boy!

Memories of home: ‘Chamin is served in a great pot in the centre of the table.’ Photograph: Ola O'Smit/The GuardianMemories of home: ‘Chamin is served in a great pot in the centre of the table.’ Photograph: Ola O'Smit/The GuardianA taste of homeLife and styleA lush Middle Eastern stew transports our guest to a bubbling pot in Jerusalem, where mum is cooking up a Sabbath treat Chamin, or cholent, as the Ashkenazi call it, is a really slow-cooked stew.

TheatreReviewRoyal Lyceum, Edinburgh Sandy Grierson brings humour and bitterness to Douglas Maxwell’s tale of a redemptive mission, directed by Matthew Lenton The eponymous figure at the centre of Douglas Maxwell’s wayward theatrical odyssey is less a hero than a heroic drunk. He’s a man never happier than when giving advice about achieving the perfect alcoholic hit, a task he performs with the dedication of a shaman. Played by Sandy Grierson, legs apart as if he’s wet himself, stooped forward as if ready to wretch, he is vulnerable, perplexed and never sober.

Jay Rayner on restaurantsFoodReviewAt this excellent steak house, great cooking and unstuffy service show the way forward Deanes Meat Locker, 28-40 Howard Street, Belfast BT1 6PF (028 9033 1134). Starters £4.50-£14.50, mains £18.95-£39.50, desserts £7.50, wines from £24.95 Nothing lasts forever. Just ask Michael Deane. Next Friday will see the last service at Deanes Eipic, the grand, crisp-tableclothed restaurant that he opened in 1997 and which has held one of Belfast’s few Michelin stars for much of the intervening 25 years, and never had an apostrophe.

Justine Damond shooting This article is more than 1 year oldMohamed Noor: ex-officer who killed unarmed woman freed on paroleThis article is more than 1 year oldNoor was resentenced to four years nine months for manslaughter of Justine Damond in Minneapolis after murder charge dropped A former Minneapolis police officer who fatally shot an unarmed woman who called 911 to report a possible sexual assault in the alley behind her home has been released from prison on parole, months after his murder conviction was overturned and he was resentenced on a lesser charge.

Formula OneHaas ditch charismatic team principal Guenther Steiner in blow to F1Italian had been team principal for 10 yearsAyao Komatsu takes over for new F1 seasonThe Haas team principal, Guenther Steiner, has been replaced for the new Formula One season after 10 years in charge. Steiner’s removal is a blow for the sport. The Italian is one of the most colourful and charismatic characters in the paddock. He played a key role in F1’s recent surge in popularity, especially in the US.

FashionThe London-born New York rapper Slick Rick talks us through the history of rappers’ accessories, and shows off his collection, from gold teeth to diamond eye patch I have been telling stories through my attire and adornments for as long as I’ve been telling them with beats and rhymes. Jewels are my thing and every piece in my collection is attached to a fun story and deserves its own Wikipedia entry.

Bill Clinton This article is more than 25 years oldPhones, moans and breaking up: Lewinsky's testimonyThis article is more than 25 years oldMonica Lewinsky's account of her affair with the PresidentOn sex: According to Ms Lewinsky, she and the president had 10 sexual encounters, eight while she worked at the White House and two thereafter. The sexual encounters generally occurred in or near the private study off the Oval Office - most often in the windowless hallway outside the study.

Book of the dayHistory booksReviewAn ambitious Persian-centric rewrite of world history is full of insight but let down by factual errorsFifty years ago, in that far-off time before the world wide web spun itself around our lives, it was easier to write a history of the world from a European perspective without too much embarrassment. In an age when stranger-than-fiction happenings are reported in real time and backed by equally instant analysis, how does one write a new history of the world?